INFP and ESFP – Compatibility, Relationships, and Friendships - Personality Growth
Hello INFP's:) I've met a girl last weekend and I really like her, we are an ESFP , does anyone of you have experience with a relationship with. Do any of you INFPs know ESFPs? What do you think of them? Do you generally have a good relationship with ESFPs or not? What annoys. ESFP Relationships. ESFPs are fun and delightful to be with. They live for the moment, and know how to make the most of each moment. They are genuinely.
Others do not address this weakness, and move from relationship to relationship without forming real commitments, convincing themselves that this is what they truly want.
Sexually, the ESFP is a very earthy and sensual individual who seeks and enjoys intimate contact with their partners. Living in the here-and-now, they throughly embrace and enjoy the experience with all five senses.
They are generous and warm, and highly interested in making their partners happy. ESFPs tend to be materialistic, and somewhat caught up in "what others think" of them. They should take care that this doesn't interfere with their personal relationships, since many of the others types will not be able to relate to their perspectives on these matters. ESFPs do not handle conflict well at all. They take any sort of criticism very personally, and consider it to be a general indictment of their character.
They may react with anger and harsh words which they would later like to take back. ESFPs would do themselves a favor if they would come to realize that criticism can be looked at constructively, rather than destructively.
If they can hear criticism without feeling personally threatened, the ESFP will have come a very long way towards greatly improving the strength and health of their relationships. ESFPs are extremely literal and concrete when communicating.
They say things in a very direct, abrupt manner, and can sometimes even unintentionally seem quite harsh. They like things to be communicated to them in a similar, concrete fashion. They dislike theory and abstraction, and will frequently misunderstand the jist of a communication if it is not communicated in a factual, present-tense manner. Discussions regarding the future or the past are not the ESFP's strong suit, and in fact they're likely to miscontrue future-looking statements as something that needs immediate attention.
When they discover that the discussion is not regarding an immediate concern, they become disinterested.
ESFPs are in general very warm and giving people, with simple needs and demands from their partners. They just want to be happy, and want to bring happiness to others.
They are energetic and popular individuals who will liven up the social life of the couple, and keep many new experiences on the horizon.
How did we arrive at this? Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness; For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable. They are warm and affectionate parents, and are great for giving practical care to their children. They like to do things in a Big way, and enjoy big families. The ESFP will freely give love and affection to their children, but they frequently have a problem with defining a structured, orderly environment for them, and they may rely on their mates in this regard.
Ultimately, the ESFP likely believes that too much structure is not a healthy thing for anyone, and so they're unlikely to enforce a highly structured or disciplined environment. If this trait is strongly present in the ESFP, and is not counteracted by their mate's perspective, it could be considered a potential pitfall for the ESFP parent.
Children need some structure which can be depended upon as they grow up. May tend to be shy and reserved Don't like to have their "space" invaded Extreme dislike of conflict Strong need to receive praise and positive affirmation May react very emotionally to stressful situations Have difficulty leaving a bad relationship Have difficulty scolding or punishing others Tend to be reserved about expressing their feelings Perfectionistic tendancies may cause them to not give themselves enough credit Tendency to blame themselves for problems, and hold everything on their own shoulders INFPs as Lovers "To love means to open ourselves to the negative as well as the positive - to grief, sorrow, and disappointment as well as to joy, fulfillment, and an intensity of consciousness we did not know was possible before.
With the Feeling preference dominating their personality, harmony and warm feelings are central to the INFP's being.INFJ Compatibility: INFJ and ESFP Relationship
They feel a need to be in a committed, loving relationship. If they are not involved in such a relationship, the INFP will be either actively searching for one, or creating one in their own minds. INFPs' tendency to be idealistic and romantically-minded may cause them to fantasize frequently about a "more perfect" relationship or situation.
They may also romanticize their mates into having qualities which they do not actually possess. Most INFPs have a problem with reconciling their highly idealistic and romantic views of life with the reality of their own lives, and so they are constantly somewhat unsettled with themselves and with their close personal relationships.
However, the INFP's deeply-felt, sincere love for their mates and their intense dislike of conflict keeps the INFP loyal to their relationships, in spite of their troubles achieving peace of mind.
[INFP] ESFP/INFP Relationship?
Unlike other types who tend to hold their mates up on a pedastal, the INFP's tendency to do so does not really turn into a negative thing in the relationship.
INFPs hold tightly to their ideals, and work hard at constantly seeing their mates up on that pedastal. The frequent INFP result is a strongly affirming, proud and affectionate attitude towards their mates which stands the test of time. INFPs are not naturally interested in administrative matters such as bill-paying and house-cleaning, but they can be very good at performing these tasks when they must.
They can be really good money managers when they apply themselves. Sexually, the INFP is likely to be initially slow to open up to their mates. Once their trust has been earned, the INFP will view sexual intimacy as an opportunity for expressing their deep-seated love and affection.
More than the actual sexual act, they will value giving and receiving love and sweet words. With their tendency to enjoy serving others, they may value their mates satisfaction above their own. One real problem area for the INFP is their intensive dislike of conflict and criticism. The INFP is quick to find a personal angle in any critical comment, whether or not anything personal was intended.
They will tend to take any sort of criticism as a personal attack on their character, and will usually become irrational and emotional in such situations. If the opinion is negative, the TJ's attitude may be threatening to the INFP, who will tend to respond emotionally to the negativity and be vaguely but emphatically convinced that the negativity is somehow the INFP's fault.
For INFPs with extremely dominant Feeling preferences who have not developed their Intuitive sides sufficiently to gather good data for their decision making processes, their dislike of conflict and criticism can foretell doom and gloom for intimate relationships.
These INFPs will react with extreme emotional distress to conflict situations, and will not know what to do about it. Since they will have no basis for determining what action to take, they will do whatever they can to get rid of the conflict - which frequently means lashing out irrationally at others, or using guilt manipulation to get their mates to give them the positive support that they crave.
This kind of behavior does not bode well for healthy, long-term relationships. Individuals who recognize this tendency in themselves should work on their ability to take criticism objectively rather than personally. They should also try to remember that conflict situations are not always their fault, and they're definitely not the end of the world.
Conflict is a fact of life, and facing it and addressing it immediately avoids having to deal with it in the future, after it has become a much larger problem. INFPs are very aware of their own space, and the space of others.
They value their personal space, and the freedom to do their own thing. They will cherish the mate who sees the INFP for who they are, and respects their unique style and perspectives.
The INFP is not likely to be overly jealous or possessive, and is likely to respect their mate's privacy and independence.
In fact, the INFP is likely to not only respect their mate's perspectives and goals, but to support them with loyal firmness. In general, INFPs are warmly affirming and loving partners who make the health of their relationships central in their lives.
Although cautious in the beginning, they become firmly loyal to their committed relationships, which are likely to last a lifetime.