Long Term Relationships | Illimitable Men
Chateau Heartiste sucks. I promise you will rarely link to new posts from there. The quality of writing and thought is just gone. Midgets on giants. This is especially true when it comes to desires for short-term mating with many new lover to a woman de-sexualizes into a submissive long-term beta bootlicker. One reason: men in relationships fear losing their lovers. Posts about Long Term Relationships written by IllimitableMan.
Fuck her in the park. Fuck her on a boat.
Fuck her at the top of a ferris wheel. One night of crazy fucking like this is worth ten years of couples therapy. LTRs will make you and her codependent.
The lament is universal, a staple of sitcoms.Discussion with huMAN on Long Term Relationships
His attention now solely focused on his lover, the hobbies, ambitions, social circle and side projects that made him so attractive to her begin to wither under the onslaught of the time-consuming LTR. Like a centrifuge, his self-made identity spins and jettisons away from him, to be replaced by the newly forged identity within the LTR. In the beginning, this is a necessary process to build the level of trust and bonding that distinguishes the LTR from any run of the mill fling. But it morphs into a hermetic pair-bond cocoon, a soft escapable prison that shields from the outside world more than it protects.
Increasingly consanguineous, the LTR alienates friends and slackens ambitions. You will have to learn to make time for friends or hobbies in a way you never did as a single man, when friends just appeared and stuff happened. Time apart with separate social groups, doing different things, is a battle cry asserting individuality and independence.
A woman as much admires and desires the independent man as she fears and envies him. The word rouses yearning and trepidation in the male mind at once. Or is it a prison? Back and forth it goes, until the typical man resolves the issue by refusing to choose, allowing the choice to be made for him by dwindling options and headstrong harpies.
There is no doubt that men are programmed down to the cilia in their cells to desire sex with a multiplicity of attractive, fertile women. Variety is the spice of life, spread the seed, hogamus higamus etc.
Some men have stronger urges to variety than other men, but in all men it is there in lesser or greater degree. For men with low compunction to promiscuity provider betasthe monogamous relationship is a sweetheart deal: Men with a raging libido and a wandering eye caddish alphas more or less suffer indignities under the LTR regime, and their predatory lust must be either squelched or sated, the former apt to inflict psychological and testicular distress while the latter a sure destruction of the intimate love that cannot tolerate infidelity except in the most feral societies.
The problem, all too familiar to readers of this blog, arises from the fact that the LTR-pursuing betas are less likely to tingle the ginas of LTR-loving women than the lustful alphas who must be dragged kicking and screaming into monogamous obligation.
Women Become More Promiscuous In Relationships, Men Become Less Promiscuous | Chateau Heartiste
What a cruel joke nature has played on us all! To tempt men and women with a prize they both want, but to establish a set of playing rules that subverts the very prize to be won, and handicaps the players most invested in the game.
Many PUAs and gurus claim that this circle can be squared; that is, that the skilled seducer can have his cake and eat it, too. He can enjoy the love expressed in an LTR while getting some action on the side. I have heard these stories, and even seen it play out in real life. But my opinion remains negative on the enterprise.
For the overwhelmingly majority of men, from high to low station, game to gameless, it is an unrealistic and mostly unattainable trick to lock in a lover for the long haul while openly satisfying his sexual need for variety.
Naturally, the more alpha a man is, the greater his chances to pull off this pseudo-polygamous hat trick, owing primarily to the fact that women are quicker to forgive the vices of an alpha lover than a beta lover. A man can love more than one woman at once, but a woman cannot love more than one man at once. She, at best, can only sex more than one man concurrently. She, ultimately, finds the fullness of her love manifest in the singular, unshared love of one man to whom she is faithfully devoted.
And so for this last part I have no answer. You, as a man, will have to choose what is more important to you: You may attempt to hide your mistresses, and that may work for a while, but it may also not work, and you will have to live with the little lies of omission for as long as you and your lover are together.
You can also try your hand at an open relationship, wherein your lover knows you seek novel pussy on the side and you, presumably, allow her to do the same with novel cock. The thought alone of a girlfriend or wife fucking another man, however many mistresses that man himself may indulge, will drive him to a fever.
Men by nature and given a free choice would collect concubines and prefer those lovers guarded by eunuchs, not by virile male competitors. Finally, there is the long shot of the one-way open relationship, aka the royal harem. She remains sexually and emotionally loyal to you, while you get to screw around whenever the feeling hits you.
If we be pleased in this sense to take having and not having of a wife, we shall indeed find no repugnancy nor contradiction in the terms at all. Phyzz test, the younger Rabelais: She is not your everything, and if she is, she will soon not be anymore.
Polarity is the core of a healthy loving relationship. Her emotions are a hurricane, her soul a saboteur.
Think of yourself as a bulwark against her tempest. Fuck her so good, so hard, so wantonly, so profligately that she is left a quivering, sparking mass of shaking flesh and sex fluids. Drain her of everything, then drain her some more.
Kiss her all over, make love to her all night, and hold her close in the morning. Own her body, own her gratitude, own her love. Never be afraid to lose her You must not fear.
Relationships Kill Sex | Chateau Heartiste
Fear is the love-killer. Fear is the ego-triumph that brings abject loneliness. You will face your fear. You will permit it to pass over and through you. And when your ego-fear is gone you will turn and face your lover, and only your heart will remain.
You will walk away from her when she has violated your integrity, and you will let her walk when her heart is closed to you. She who can destroy you, controls you. Love yourself before you love her. Fuck your woman good, because that is her prime directive, to be fucked good.
These are the attributes of a man who holds an unshakeable frame with his woman or women. That is the key to marital happiness.